It’s been an exciting week getting back to “normal” after Thanksgiving at the beach. Laundry is done, Ms Bean has decided to ignore us again when we call her outside, a dead deer showed up in the yard, made a big batch of vegetable soup…wait a minute. Did I just say something about a deer? Yes, unfortunately it’s hunting season and although our property is posted, this poor animal managed to drag itself next to Bob’s garden. That evening, I asked Bob why finding the deer was so hard on me, and he reminded me about something that happened when the Rocker was a baby.
We were all outside working on our garden, picking up twigs on the lawn. It was a beautiful Fall day. Suddenly we heard a piercing cry, and I followed the anguished sounds to a pine tree. There stood the most beautiful red cardinal. I gently moved my hand toward the bird, and it just stayed there, surprising me. I picked him up to find he had impaled himself on a pine needle. I sent Bob into the house for a shoebox and a towel, and we packed him up for a quick ride to the vet, but he died on the way. I am married to a man who deals with life and death issues on a daily basis; old people in nursing homes who are barely cognizant, toddlers who fall into swimming pools. Yet I can barely breathe when confronted with a suffering animal.
Although my deer didn’t make the local news, along with the “Bag it or Buy it” piece about school lunches for the week, the BIG news story in Albemarle County was a thwarted child abduction at the indoor “Fashion Square Mall.” http://www.nbc29.com/story/20228216/attempted-abduction-bond-hearing It seems that the mall security guards just let this guy go, in fact escorted him out of the building after the 2 year old’s father rescued his daughter. And to make matters worse, it was the girl’s parents who finally called the police 6 hours later! There had been much hand-wringing and soul-searching until some community members identified the suspect and he was arrested on Thursday.
I thought about that first big case in NY, Etan Patz in 1979 when the Bride was born. About how they have finally charged a man after so many years. http://articles.nydailynews.com/2012-11-15/news/35139303_1_etan-patz-pedro-hernandez-child-molester And about how that changed the way many of us parent; to become attachment types, which leads to helicopter or even drone-like parenting. While searching through my baby pictures, I found little me in a playpen outside. Bob said he was left in a carriage outside for the “fresh air.” The conflict continues, to smother and coddle, to wrap in wool, or to let your children roam “free-range?”
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When you consider that hunting season never ends for these criminals, I would err on the side of caution today.
Yes, we have to be more more cautious. My kids just had their yard fenced and I don’t think it’s safe to let the little ones outside alone.. very different then when I grew up and when I raised my own kids. Sad…
I know. When we moved back to NJ from MA, a neighbor called me to say that my daughter had to “arrange” play dates. She was 8 years old and used to playing outside and knew to stay on our cul-de-sac…but now I had to call the parent and make a “playdate.”
I was raised ‘free range’ as I think most kids were back then. I am saddened by the need for drones now. I think there CAN be a happy medium reached, though, between the two. Yes, fence the kids in, but then let them eat the dirt and collect the bugs, etc. etc. I think we can keep a watchful eye without cutting off ALL of the splendor of a ‘free range’ lifestyle. Thanks for exploring this topic, thanks for sharing your picture, and I understand the stress and sadness over the wounded animals. The older I get, the worse it gets for me. I think it’s the innocence of the animal that strikes me. Again, thanks for this great post.